Father's Day
Jun. 21st, 2010 03:18 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
bazzYesterday was the first Father's Day in forever for which I did not have to awkwardly prepare by searching through racks of greeting cards for one that didn't say anything too meaningful or grossly untrue ("I love you," "You're a great Dad," etc.). I never really examined that ritual very closely. Why bother with such a meaningless act or, further, such a meaningless relationship?
I'm surprisingly OK with the fact that I'm no longer speaking to my parents. The worst of it, the couple weeks after I graduated with no mention of it by them, has passed. I did my grieving then. (And that's when I also registered a domain name having to do with Adult Adoption. Not sure what to do with it yet but hopefully something cool.) I do feel sorry for my kid because I had two grandparents who were so loving and kind to me-- and my kid never had that. But then again, I had a couple wonderful grandparents but not even one parent with a head screwed on right. I guess it's a trade-off.
Overall, separating from my parents has probably been the best decision I have ever made. I feel like I've lost 200 pounds of anxiety and indecision.
I'm surprisingly OK with the fact that I'm no longer speaking to my parents. The worst of it, the couple weeks after I graduated with no mention of it by them, has passed. I did my grieving then. (And that's when I also registered a domain name having to do with Adult Adoption. Not sure what to do with it yet but hopefully something cool.) I do feel sorry for my kid because I had two grandparents who were so loving and kind to me-- and my kid never had that. But then again, I had a couple wonderful grandparents but not even one parent with a head screwed on right. I guess it's a trade-off.
Overall, separating from my parents has probably been the best decision I have ever made. I feel like I've lost 200 pounds of anxiety and indecision.